More and more I’m seeing girls saying they are married and husbands accept their bisexual and are happy for you to find a girlfriend, but only if you have threesomes…For one thing why do men have to be there with their wife and her girlfriend?
Maybe they don’t feel comfortable with the thought of their wife going off and having fun with a woman…..or are afraid?…

Why can’t the husbands accept that the wife needs a girl to fill their bisexual side or just to explore?
I’m married with a kid of 5 and my husband never once said to me that he would like a threesomes he is not into that, and neither I’m I….Yes, now and then my husband throws a wobble and starts to worry about our marriage…I know what I want but now is not the right time to do anything about it…..I’ll know when the time is right.
I have a wonderful girl that I met on this site, I’m one of the lucky ones to have met such a wonderful beautiful woman…

I’m not quite sure why it seems to be a common thing among men to suggest threesomes when their wife/girlfriend says they’re bi…could just be the testosterone~lol~ anyway, my b/f has never brought up having one on his own…it was usually me suggesting it. I think I did it mostly for the fact I thought it was the only way I was ever gonna be with a woman. He has said to me that he would want to be there and possibly watch…which is a lil weird but I guess my guilt makes me okay with it. Part of me feels bad that I should want anyone else other than him…like he’s not enough or something. Then there’s that other part of me that wants to share that experience with him because I love him so much and I’m happy he accepts that part of me. But as of late, he has said that if I get to where I need to be with a woman he will support me in any way I need him to…including being alone with a woman and no threesomes. I guess it all depends on preference really…some people like that sort of thing. I’d like to experience it once in my life, but it’s not a requirement of my bisexuality if I choose to act on it. I’ve been very blessed with my b/f and despite the many fights we’ve had over what we want and what’s expected, he has always found his way to being very understanding…and I know that’s hard. As far as having a girlfriend outside of my relationship goes, I really can’t say that I want one…because I think at that point it gets a lil too complicated and expectations get a lil too high. I know there are a few on here that would like the same as me…a good friend that I can hang with and sometimes more. That may be what it’s like but I don’t know. I’m fine with things as they are right now. This site has helped to curb my appetite somewhat and stop all the craziness I felt when I first got here…I’m glad it’s not a dating site or I would have been in trouble~lol~ I feel very lucky to have this place to go to!

Threesomes are a whole different ballpark. They are meant for fun and exploring between a couple. A mutual decision. They are no substitute for wanting to really experience a woman. When that third person is involved there are thoughts of keeping everyone happy. Not that it can’t be fun. It really can. BUT when a woman wants to experience a woman it’s better one on one. It doesn’t feel like a performance that way. You can put your whole body into just exploring. For me men equate violence. I don’t mean violence as in being hit and what not. But they bring a brute force to things. lol And with a woman just one on one it’s like watching a flower bloom before your eyes. Maybe it’s just me. But men bring an aura with them.
My dh and I have had our threesomes. They were fun. Minus one. lol But I was with women before he came along. So I know what I have felt and have been through both. So for anyone who is willing to have a threesome to be with a woman just know it’s not the same. It just isn’t. Don’t get me wrong it’s not bad just you never really know until you have have been with just a woman.
I could go on and on. But if it makes you uncomfortable to talk about having threesomes the best advice is don’t do it. If you want to be with just a woman try to work it out. If you can’t you are better off just waiting until the time is right. Anything that brings guilt is tainted from the start.

Its the whole standup to pee thing ya’ll….If it has a fucking penis…Then all it thinks about is the porn they seen when they were 16 and beat off too….Most times they think “Hell yea a mans fantasy”…*Rolls eyes*…But they only think with their cocks…They dont realize that there is more to it than that…All they think about is the sex thing…Its never about the heart

Personally, I have tried the threesome thing and enjoyed it. Although at times it did seem rather surreal. I doubt it will become a regular part of my sex life. I acknowledge and respect both sides of the debate. As long as everyone is open and knows their boundaries I think it can enhance one’s life. The threesome was MY idea…not DH. I have NEVER done anything that I didn’t want to. I know I will not move onto “swinging” as I need no other penis in my life. However, should I wish to be alone with a woman, I know DH would respect that. I just want him to come on my journey with me and if at ANY time either of us feel that our relationship was threatened, we are mature enough to sit and talk things through.
IMHO, if you can’t stand the heat…stay outta the bedroom!

The only way I EVER see anything happening with a woman, for me, is if my husband is completely involved and participating. That’s the only way I would want it. And since I’m not sure either one of us is comfortable with the idea of “sharing” each other with someone else, I doubt that anything will be able to happen with another woman for a long time, if ever.

My marriage is too important to me to destroy it by going behind my husband’s back for something that would, in all likelihood, be a silly fling and not that great anyway. I’m one of those weird people who only believes in having sex with someone you love. That doesn’t appear to be very common in the bi world — most of the people I’ve met are more “jump into bed quickly” types. That’s fine, if that’s what makes them happy. It wouldn’t satisfy me.

I’m married and I’ve have threesomes with my husband and another woman, but I’ve also been with a woman alone. I like them both.Sometimes it’s nice to just be with one person and sometimes it’s nice to wonder “whose hand is that?”

My husband never pressured me into having a threesome. It was a decision we made together. If it feel right and comfortable and everyone involved is happy than why not?

Yes, yes and yes. Personally, I think it’s the best of both worlds and is the primary reason I’m on this site.
And no, it’s not for everybody but to each her own is the way this site functions which is why I keep hanging around and feel free to voice my unequivocal opinion on this subject. My approach since the big discovery has been “I really enjoy this and it harms no one, so why not.” I have no desire from a “woman’s perspective” to have anything deeper than a great friendship and some ancillary messing around to go with it. Failing that, I find the ancillary messing around quite a lot of fun on its own merit. I will admit, however, that this whole exploration business and some of the people I’ve met on this site have got me thinking a little bit more. I have found some utterly brilliant souls on here who engage me intellectually and whom I just plain like the hell out of. So it does make you kind of wonder how much it would take to take one step further. And here I was a little nervous to begin with… and now a whole bunch of other perceptions are beginning to change. Will it change my love for him; never. But it could seriously complicate things, lol.

Jane lived in a large house two blocks from the school. Her bedroom was on the second floor next to the stairs, and her parents slept in the room at the opposite end of the hallway. As we were getting ready for bed, we began talking about what it would be like to kiss a boy and letting him caress our breasts. Since neither of us had ever dated, the only thing we knew about it was what Jane’s older sister use to tell us. We could only imagine. We finally went to bed after having a snack and chatting. Her parents were already asleep since they had to get up early the next morning. Jane had a double bed and we laid there in our T-shirts talking about boys. Before long, we were both very excited.

Jane was a little taller then me and had much bigger breasts. I was a little envious since I was a late bloomer. She gave me a strange smile and told me to close my eyes. I did so, not quite sure what to expect. Suddenly, her soft lips gently brushed mine in a slow kiss.

I started to open my eyes but she told me to keep them closed and pretend that she was Mark, a boy we both had a crush on at school.

I could feel my heart beating. Something was stirring inside me.

I nodded once, letting her know it was okay. The next thing I knew, we were French kissing and our tongues were touching. I could feel an excitement deep within me that I had never felt before. As our lips parted, we realized we were both flushed.

Jane looked at me straight in the eyes. “Now it’s your turn to be Mark,” she said.

Nervously, I put my hand on her breast and began to caress it tenderly. I cradled it, feeling her fullness under my fingertips. I sensed a shudder going through her and could tell she was really enjoying this. After a few moments she pulled her shirt up and gently put my hand back on her breast. I started teasing her nipple, and felt my heartbeat accelerate as it got harder and harder.

“Suck it,” she whispered.

I leaned over and started playing with it with my tongue.

he reached over and pulled my shirt up over my head and then took hers off. We lay there nude on our sides and slowly put our arms around each other. As we hugged, our lips met once again and our hands began to roam. Her hand slid down across my butt and caressed my cheeks. Her fingers slowly moved closer and closer to my pussy. Before I knew it she was lightly stroking my outer lips and I felt my body shudder. 

I had never had feelings like these before. My whole body was getting warmer. Jane knew how excited I was because suddenly I was gasping for breath and she had to pull back. She just looked at me and smiled. I didn’t know what to do. I was embarrassed and a little scared.

Jane gently pushed me on my back and started sucking on my nipple. Soon she was gently biting it, and every time she did, a jolt shot through my whole body. With her hand, she slowly pushed my legs apart and her fingers started moving up and down on my pussy lips. She kept teasing until a finger began slipping inside. Just as she pressed it all the way in, she bit down on my nipple again. My whole body gave a jerk and I felt an explosion inside me.

I yelled, “OH GOD” so loud we were suddenly afraid her parents would wake up. I did not realize it then, but this was the first real orgasm of my life. I lay there shaking and she put a gentle hand over my mouth so I wouldn’t make anymore noise.

As the climax subsided, Jane started giggling. As overwhelmed as I was, I couldn’t help myself… and started laughing along with her.

After a few moments we calmed down. Jane was looking at me again, but this time her smile was less playful.

“Now it’s your turn,” she murmured.

I looked at her and whispered, “I don’t know what to do.”

She said, “It’s easy,” as she placed my hand down between her legs. “I’ll guide you”.

She opened her legs and I began gently rubbing the inside of her thighs. My fingers brushed against her pubic area and she whispered “Yesss.”

 

Soon my finger was inside her going up and down as I rested my head on her stomach and let my finger sink deeper inside her.

She let out a low moan and put her hand on my head and started playing with my hair. “Use two fingers,” she whispered. I slid another in and began working them around. She began pushing her hips against them and started gently moving my head down lower. My fingers were getting coated with her juices and I could smell her intoxicating scent. I was getting turned on again and instead of being repelled by the smell, I felt more and more drawn to it. My head went lower and lower until I was just inches away.

 

“Taste it,” she whispered.

I looked up at her and said, “I… don’t know.” I wanted to taste it… yet part of me was holding back.

 

“Go ahead, just try it.”

I slid my fingers out, brought them up to my lips, stuck my tongue out and lightly licked them. The taste wasn’t as strong as I thought it would be. It was very different than I had expected. I licked them again a little harder and then slipped them into my mouth. I looked up at Jane and she was smiling. I put my fingers up against her lips and she sucked them, running her tongue around them. I pulled them out of her mouth and slid them back inside her pussy, moving them around to coat as much juices as I could on them. Then, I put them back in her mouth and she sucked and licked them like it was her favorite ice cream.

I moved my head down between her legs and let my tongue slide up inside her. I started gently licking her up and down, each time going deeper and deeper. Soon my whole mouth was covered with her juices and she was thrusting her hips at me, while her soft moans urged me on… “Yes, yes, deeper, ooooh Sandy.”

My heart was pounding and suddenly I couldn’t breathe. I lifted my head up and came around and pressed my lips against hers. Our mouths opened, and our tongues met in a frenzy of licking and sucking. When we finally parted Jane told me to lie down on my back. She then turned around and straddled me putting her head down between my legs and her beautiful butt just inches from my face.

We both started licking each other. I followed her lead and whatever she did to me I did to her. I put my hands on her cheeks and opened her up as wide as possible thrusting my tongue in as deep as I could and then coming up and sucking on her clit. I could feel my orgasm building up deep inside me. My whole body felt like it was going to explode…

I erupted like a volcano. I was shaking as I pulled my head back gasping for air. Jane let out a sigh and relaxed, letting her body drop down on me. After a few minutes she climbed off and lay down beside me. We didn’t say anything for a while. All I could taste and smell was Jane. I reached over and took her hand and gave it a light squeeze. She looked over and smiled.

I’ve met so many straight girls that have tried bi sex only to be turned off or afraid to try it again. Mostly, these are girls that attempted it too young and then had an onset of guilt or perhaps didn’t fully enjoy the pleasures another female can provide. I’m college age and you’d be surprised at the number of girls that are interested in trying it, but just can’t bring themselves to let go. When was your 1st bi experience? What prompted it? Did you learn from it? How long before you gave it another try? 

My 1st semi bi experience was at 12 when another girl and I were going to practice kissing. Very innocent and a lot of giggles, until all of a sudden we were really getting in to it. We abruptly stopped and haven’t spoken of that time again.

My 1st real bi experience, or at least where another lady did me was when I was 15 and an older lady seduced me and made love to my body. I was in shock, scared, very nervous; but it was also the best orgasm I’d ever experienced up until then. I wasn’t real experienced or anything, but I had found the pleasures of my hands and fingers under the covers at night. After that afternoon, I begin to think about sex with other females an awful lot. I only had a very few encounters after that until I got to college. Now I enjoy the tenderness and the gentlness of another lady as often as possible. I’m certainly not an agressive type of person, but through friends I enjoy looking for opportunities, especially those 1st timers. I’ve also found that middle aged (no offense) ladies are very intrigued by the thought of exploring another female. Usually, these ladies can be met at the mall stores, gymns, or spas.
Anyone else?

My first time was about 6 year’s ago with my best friend.
We had just got her kid’s asleep and was watching this movie on tv that had some nubity in it and 1 scene with girl on girl. We Decided to go to bed and ended up doing more then just going to sleep

Well my first experience was 2 years ago when I was 28. My hubby and his friend knew I was bi-curious. his friend knew his gf was bi-curious so they kept arranging for us to meet. We were way to shy to do anything even though we suspected the other was interested  eventually we hugged and kissed and then went to bed together, but amidst lots of shy glances and constant shy giggles .

My first bi experience was kind of strange and not really that sexual. I was sixteen and I had an enormous crush on a girl in my class called Jo. At a party one evening I was being treated badly by a guy I liked and went outside to cool down and she followed me. I went around a dark corner and then turned around and she was there. I don’t know why but I just opened my arms and she came to me and we just stood in the darkness with our whole bodies touching and our lips and faces millimetres form each other. I have no idea why we didn’t kiss but we stood there completely wrapped around each other for about ten minutes, I don’t think either of us wanted to be the one to make the first move. So we just held each other and breathed in each others breath with our eyelashes brushing each others faces. I could feel every heartbeat. It was one of the most erotic and unexpected experiences I have ever had. I ve been tempted to contact her since through Friends Re United but have not had the guts.

My first experience was when I was about 17 and it was with my best friend. I’d had a crush on her for a while and thought ‘heck why not tell her’…so one night I did. I didn’t think anything would happen, but it did and its pretty much been there ever since, on and off, and we’ve recently become a couple! Yey for me!

My 1st bi experience was a lil over a year ago. we were friends for a lil while and then started dating. i had rented a hotel room and she came over and made love to my body. i didn’t get the chance to do her cuz she wouldn’t leave my body alone..lol. it was a wonderful experience tho. now i wanna do my best friend….lol.

 It was about 2 years ago when I was 40 (AAAAAAAAAHHHH!) Was at an older friends house sharing a bottle of wine and the subject came up and she kind of pounced on me. We are both married and afterwards I felt like wanted to explore some more but she was totally embarrassed and said she only gets feelings for sex with a woman when she’s drunk. (Aww) First and last experience so far and to be totally honest, all a little bit of a blur.

I am right where I want to be.

She lays on the bed….I am propped up on one elbow, laying on the soft cotton sheets…the top sheet tossed aside. I look at her, she is a true beauty…when I look at her all I can think is how much I enjoy giving her pleasure.

I look at her skin, white, pure….almost like a velvet to the touch. Her breasts are soft and I lean over to kiss the tip of one nipple. My lips are warm, and she feels a surge of electricity current from my lips to her skin.

I look into her eyes, they are blue today…she has a longing inside her eyes that tells me exactly what she needs. Her pleasure is my highest joy. As I hold the gaze, I tell her…”I am going to make you feel so good babe…”and she knows…beyond a shadow of a doubt…that I am going to eat her …drive her wild with passion until she can no longer stand it…and knowing that….changes the look in her eyes to that just short of fear…she says..”ohhh.yesss”

Just telling her that makes her body jump a bit and her next breath come in a short, quick gasp….she knows how good I make her feel….and she knows…I love doing it…

I glide my fingers gently over her soft, wavy hair…she is still focused on me and slightly flush. My fingers then trace down the side of her pretty face, and the outline of her beautiful lips. I bend down slightly and kiss her..very softly…I pull back and once more our eyes lock. I bend down and kiss her again only this time, my tongue gently parts her mouth open and softly licks her lips and finds her tongue. Our tongues softly sweep together; our kissing starts very softly and quickly becomes almost frantic…

Our hot mouths cannot get enough of one another’s tongues; our tongues slide, twist, turn, having their own game of sex inside of our mouths. Our breathing is heavier and our hands are now frantically groping each other’s bodies like teenagers. We are in heat.

I pull back…she is panting slightly…I don’t want to lose control..yet…I pull my lust together and force myself to come to my senses..I don’t want to rush this sweet time.

My fingers once again glide down the side of her face; she smiles…she takes my hand in hers and kisses it. She then looks into my eyes and I smile back at her.

I bend over her beautiful full breasts and kiss a nipple. I slowly put it in my mouth and lathe it with warm licks. I gently suck it and give it an occasional light bite…I know at this point if I touch her…she will be soaking wet.

I continue my assault on her other breast..as I tease her nipple her chest is heaving up and down. Her nipple feels stiff…the slight roughness of my tongue slowly licking it causes her to moan very quietly.

I cannot wait any longer. With my free hand I reach down between her already spread legs and cup my hand over her velvety shaved pussy…in my palm I can feel a little wetness and I know…she is sopping just beyond those soft sweet lips.

While I lift up my head, I look once again in her eyes.

She knows. She knows I am about to touch her clit.

She gasps in sharply as my middle finger slowly and gently starting at the base of her pussy down by her ass begins to sweep upward, parting her dripping pussy lips as it slowly glides up to her clit. The tip of my finger is very smooth … I paint so my fingernails are always filed neatly down…..all the more for her pleasure….

She is so wet.

Our eyes are locked as my finger meets her swollen bud. When I touch it her entire body jerks, and she says “ohhhhhhhhhh”. I allow my finger to stay still on her precious clit.

She closes her eyes.

I think to myself…I love it when she is this wet. I sigh.

Once again my middle finger returns to her opening, I restrain myself from plunging it inside her, I want to focus on her clit right now. My finger slowly, gently, glides once more straight up to her clit, I notice it is swollen more now than the first time I touched it.

I love making her clit swell. Once again, I sigh…

Just wondering how its possible to climax, sometimes more than once, and still be horny. Don’t get me wrong I am in no way complaining … I also know this is not a phenomenon I am alone in. I just thought when a person had an orgasm it was a release of such energy… yet sometimes it only seems to add to it. Whats your take on this and is it really possible to satisfy urges to the point of not feeling horny?

“For me, it’s just a build up again…and another release… not as huge as the first, but equally enjoyable….”

“hmmm just a theory, but maybe from a biological/evolutionary POV, in order to reproduce it makes sense to keep the woman up for it for as long as possible.Once the mans done, th ejob is done so he can just fall asleep. when I come I’m usually satisfied enough, but not always.I hav ea friend who has to come about 7-8 times till shes worn out”

“It depends for me. Sometimes one satisfies me and I don’t want to be touched anymore, other times I know as soon as I am done that I really want another. Hubby is always more than happy to assist. I think three at one time is my limit though. Certain areas start to get too sore”

“I am very much into and am lucky enough to experience multiple O’s quite often whether it with a partner or with my roger….I am always horny so much so most days I find myself sloping off home to see to myself Most i have managed is 5, but with a rest inbetween…. just gets too exhausting for me and a lil erm sore, a combination of the two usually quenches my thirst so to speak….. plus am not as young as i used to be but definatley hornier.”

“I am usually pretty satisfied by one. Actually, I have been able to orgasm twice in one night only once (last weekend! ) I do enjoy the feel of my man after an orgasm, tho. Everything is more sensitive…in a good way.”

“i’m a lucky girl to enjoy mutiples like some of you, but when is enough enough? when you’re both exhausted and couldn’t bring another one off if you tried? maybe this is where an additional partner might come in handy LOL. but in all honesty it varies, sometimes one is enough other times more is better, but soreness does play a part.”

“My rate of horniness and orgasms vary! Sometimes if I’m alone and masturbating I just reach orgasm once and am satisfied. Other times I am so horny that I just want to keep on going. When I’m making love with my hubby the same also applies…sometimes I just fancy a quickie and have one orgasm and other times I want shag like a bunny and cum and cum again!! The most orgasms I have during any one lovemaking and/or masturbating session is 4- 5. I have very intense orgasms so 4 or 5 for me can get exhausting!! “

“For me it depends on a lot of things. Mood has a lot to do with it, if I’m stressed it is a great release and an escape from the world. If I’m horny I can’t get enough, it builds on top of the feelings I already have. Ok, so I am a multi and never get enough, hubby will not let me stop without having a least 4. He says it is his joy in life to see me satisfied and he just loves giving head. I don’t have the soreness problem no matter how many I have, lucky I guess. “

“For me it’s not a quanity thing, it’s quality. I can take a while to climax and other times it takes seconds, just depends. I know that after awhile I’m way too sensitive to continue.. prefer 1 or 2 great climaxes than 5 little quick ones.”

“Frankly I’m only an orgasm repeater once in a blue moon, and 9 time out of 10 it’s because I’m doing it myself. Sometimes I wish nymphomania was one of my many problems. If you’re still horny after the deed, I say be glad, and high five to the lucky partner who gets to please and be pleased by you.”

“My big fantasy is tribadism. I’m afraid to go into detail about my experiences with it, like when and where. But my fantasy is to experience it again!”

“What exactly does tribadism mean… no worries in here, i’m just curious because i’ve never heard about that…and you’ve peaked my curiousity…”

“I’m so glad someone responded to this! Thanks! Tribadism is the term used for rubbing the clitoris against another fleshy surface, such as another clitoris. I love oral sex and all, but I never can seem to make this one happen. It’s like I’m afraid of what she might say. But I find it so erotic. ”

“Don’t we do that now…when we grind and rub during foreplay? Or is specifically ONLY another clitoris? Cuz then, it’s a little tough to get that spot only and specifically, but heh, I’m sure you can try. And really, if you are in the position to get your lover IN that position, I’m sure it’s okay – just do it – I wouldn’t object – would you, ladies? When you’re impassioned (right word?)?”

“Anyway, one would play the dominant (face to face) and the other would play the subordinate postion. The first time I did this I was subordinate. SO that meant I spread my legs, and the other girl would cover me. But, she would spread her lips which would expose her clitoris, and I would spread my lips, and so you see, I can’t believe I’m writing this, there is some intense and erotic contact. ”

“Sounds wonderful to me! I think that anything is worth trying at least once, and I just can’t see how that couldn’t feel absolutely yummy!!!! I wish we were not so afraid about what others may or may not find sexy. Knowing you enjoy it makes it sexy to begin with…I know that most things I thought others would think I was a freak for wanting or liking, are things that my lovers have liked as much if not more than me. And being able to hear new ideas, positions, and thoughts is exactly why I am here! So you go girl and tell us all your freaky thoughts! ”

” have recently become a member and this has been top on my fantasy list for sooo long. So good for all us girls to be talking about all this.Even if I did just make myself blush just thinking about it!!”

“It’s the scissors technique which gets me there the most. My ex used to call it ‘interlocking c’unts’. Doesn’t sound glamorous, but she was a straight tawkin’ beeatch. If I had a virtual Magnadoodle, then I’d draw you a diagram. But, try and imagine opening your legs and sliding your partners open legs inbetween yours, so your wedged together and you can grasp each others legs or hands for movability. Your heads are the furthest apart, being at opposite poles, but who cares eh. If your supple enough, you can raise your bottoms of the ground, taking the weight on your arms. It’s quite a workout too.”

“Such a fancy name for something so fun. In my experience, having had a LTR with another woman at one time and being a part of the Lesbian scene, Tribadism is more common than you would think. It’s also what makes my being a “top” so fun. I have always been the one to seduce and indulge my lover. I’d rather get her off a million times first. IF you get nice and slick, maybe with a little of the gel that heats up it’s incredible. Lots of opportunity to alternate between sucking and licking nips and grinding. Some of the best sex I’ve had with women is this way.”

“Would you like it to be with someone you just met(say in a bar)& will probably never see again? With someone who is an acquaintance that you will have an ongoing situation with, but, it will mainly just be sex? With someone who is a friend(you can confide in each other & you go out to movies & stuff)that you also can be physically initmate with? Or someone who you’re having a relationship(friendship, romance & making love)? For me, I’d like to be in a relationship or, at least, be friends with the person. This is something I’ve waited for for so long & it’s too important to me to just do it casually. Some people might be ok having a fling or whatnot, but, I want to have more.”

“Well for me I would like it to be with somebody that I’m friends with, someone to run around with, like shopping and what ever else friends do together. But then be able to have an intimate relationship too with that person. And I’ll be truthful here, if a chance came up for maybe a one night stand with a girl that I don’t really know very well, I can’t say that I would pass it up. ”

“Not really a ‘one night stand’ type of person be it male or female so I’m fairly confident that route would never be an option. As for the ‘friend with benefits’… just don’t think I could keep things sorted like that – sex is too personal for me… That pretty much leaves me in the category of having to be in love with someone. I’m fortunate enough to be able to know my first time will be with my best friend who I just happen to be madly in love with – that not only will it be the first time I am intimate with a woman but it will be the first time I am intimate with someone I love, it will be the first time I “make love”, it will be the first time I actually desire and want to be physically intimate with someone.”

“To me love and sex go hand in hand.I hope my first time is with my best friend. I love her dearly, and want a physical, and emotional relationship with her. I want to romance her and feel the total connection. Not just a fling.”

“I would definitely have to say I want to be in a relationship with the person. Even if that relationship is just a great friendship with more benefits. For example, if something were to happen with my current crush (hope, hope, wish, wish, pray, pray lol), I think it would be better because we know each other so well. I could see the other side of the spectrum, too…with the stranger you would get the wildness and “forbidden” aspect of it all. I guess I’m just a hopeless romantic though.”

“I have had 2 first times. The first time I felt a womans touch was at my university. I went out with my ex and my bi friend. They plotted against me, or for me if you would like to see it that way. I did. She was a friend, which made it much more comfortable for me. My real first with a woman exclusively was also with a very close friend. We spent a light hearted afternoon exploring and enjoying each other. It was one of the least demanding and most indulgent few hours I’ve ever had. That doesn’t dismiss the possibility of a new and exciting one night stand, but I have never had one and always wondered if I’m missing a “rite of passage” so to speak.”

“Since I am already deeply committed(to my husband) I don’t think I’d want a relationship which might challenge my already existing relationship…but, on the other hand, though I want a non-commital sexual experience with a woman, I imagine that it wouldn’t be so sexy if you are not attracted to them as a personality, just using one’s body would be similar to playing with an inflatable doll. And you have to get to know them to be attracted to the personality, right? So it sort of rules out a one-night stand. On the other hand, I’ve had situations in my life, where I was immensely sexually attracted to a few women, who were virtual strangers, and I felt like the personality didn’t matter to me at the time, all I wanted was to get my hands on her body! So it’s difficult to say really.”

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Lastly there’s a new forum up for bi and bicurious men to chat dicuss issues and basically chill-out with like-minded men.

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Would you mind if your husband slept with another woman (that you didn’t know about?).
If you were straight and your husband was bisexual, would you mind him sleeping with a man? or is it generally more “acceptable” for women to have sex with each other than it is for men? Would you mind a threesome with two men?

“Yes, if were an open relationship it would have too!
In my opinion, a couple has to define their own terms and boundries. Some people choose tradtional, some couples have threesomes, some each have partners apart from their spouses. I think having sex with a woman without letting my husband know is cheating. I have no interest in men, other than him. Don’t get me wrong, I find men attractive, but am quite happy. Although, he has not expressed desire to have another woman or man, if he did, its something we would talk about. Although, he has not expressed desire to have another woman or man, if he did, its something we would talk about.
Threesomes, well given the right circumstances, anything can be fun, at least once! ”

“I have a couple of internet friends, they are married swingers. i remember asking one of them about it and he says the rule is they can have sex with anyone they want, but he cannot climax in another woman as that would be cheating! So after he’s had sex with another woman, he has to call his wife over from whatever she’s doing so he can cum in her! I didn’t want to say anything to him at the time, but .. eugh.”

“I am married and have recently watched my husband sex a female. I set it up for him and it did not bother me (or turn me on because I was not attracted to the girl) in the least bit. I would be angry if my husband slept with another female behind my back . Our understanding is if I invite a female in, he can participate or have sex with her if she is willing. He can suggest a female to me and I do not have a problem as long as I am there to watch. What is funny is that he was very nervous and did not cum . That was not fun to watch at all. As a matter of fact, I was bored . Hopefully the next female is more attractive to me and I join in. Yes, I would mind my husband sleeping with a man. I don’t like to even watch man on man porn. However I would like to have a threesome with two men without the man on man action. I am not allowed to have any type of contact with men. So I do not have male friends and I would def not have sex with a man. I have yet to have a sexual encounter with a woman, but we have discussed that he wants to be present at all the events and I have to be very open with him.”

“I’m in an open relationship with a bi-sexual man. The key to the success of our relationship is that we are open about our fantasies and our experiences. He has been with guys on his own and with me since we’ve been together, i watched him with a guy (it did turn me on ) and he watched me with the same guy. I am just learning about my own bi-curiousity and share many of my fantasies with him and we both hope in due time we can share experiences with other women as well as men. It is all about trust, openess and communication. Those are the keys.”

“I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. He was the 1st person I ever trusted enough to “come out” to. And he actually set up my 1st sexual encounter with a woman…without his support and encouragement, it would have been a lot harder for me to face who I am and embrace it
When we married each other, I believe that we made a commitment to share our lives with each other… For us, cheating would be something that we’d try to hide from the other. Being open and honest with each other about our dreams, fantasies, and intentions is the key that holds us together – it helps us grow as a couple as well as individuals!
My husband is the only man that I want to be close to. Don’t get me wrong, I am attracted to other men at times, and I have a few friends that are guys that are really great to hang out with – but I just can’t see myself ever being physical with another man. But that’s just me, (it works for hubby too – cause he really wouldn’t want to share me w/ another man anyway), ultimately though I believe every couple has to decide what they are comfortable with for themselves.
I don’t mind my husband being with other women, so long as he is upfront with me about it first, and is being safe. I had much rather be there, than not be there, though, whether I participate or not – which also requires that the woman not only know about me – but that she accepts me as a part of his life that’s not going away- and is comfortable with me being a part of her life & their experiences as well. ”

“As of yet, I have not been with another woman, but my husband knows of my desires to do so. We have talked extensively about it tho and laid some ground rules for if it ever happened. First off I have to be open and honest with him, if I meet a girl that I feel I may have sex with then he wants to know up front. If it’s a spontaneous moment then I have to tell him as soon as possible. He doesn’t have to be involved every time but wants to be included some of the time. As far as him sleeping with another woman, we have agreed that it is only to be done if I am present, mainly because he says he doesn’t want to be with another woman unless I am there. And him with other men, not a problem. I have told him if he ever feels the inclination to go ahead, just be safe and tell me about it. He is completely straught so I guess I have nothing to worry about there. And neither one of us are interested in a 3some with another man. He says he can’t stand the thought of me with another guy in any situation.
So for right now that is our agreement.”

” My view is that if a woman in a commited relationship is bi and wants to have a relationship with a woman she should be able to, but if a man wants to be with another woman he shouldn’t. What women get from other women is not that same as what a man can give. He is simply not a capable of it. Likewise, a man can be with another man for the same reasons, but he cannot be with another woman.”

Hi.. hope you liked my naff title.. am just wondering, was it all you thought it would be or did the experience let you down? Did it all come naturally (scuse) or was it a bit of a fumble? I am so looking forward to going all the way with a woman, but just thought.. what if its not as good in reality – you know?

“Well a little fumble closed eyes lights out etc but I suppose it helped that she had a few to drink and that we knew each other really well and we laughed a great deal and could be open with each other. i suppose all in all i wanted it so much to happen so it was more me holding back, but nevertheless yes I was nervous my first time and all but at the same time added to the excitement.”

“ I suppose a bit of both, it felt natural but i think we were both scared and nervous. It was great though !!! “

“The first time that I was with a woman I don’t think I had ever questioned if I was bisexual or gay or straight or whatever. Then my friend and I had a few drinks and we just started kissing and soon we were really into it. Maybe because we hadn’t really spent time worrying about it or anything it seemed to come very naturally.
It was a long time ago. I’m not sure how comfortable I would feel if I were with a woman now. If I felt self-conscious, of course I would not be comfortable whether my partner was a man or woman. ”

“Actually my first time was with a couple. She was 3 yrs older than me. It was around this time last year. I admit, I had no idea what I was doing I just acted as I did… She was really aggressive though and took over and wow, it was intense. I have to admit though, we kissed so passionately for the longest time it seemed. I enjoyed that more than anything else.”

“My first time happened this week, Monday. There wasn’t any fumbling, it was all so natural, there was no nervousness or awkwardness. We kissed for over an hour then made love, and then fell asleep in each other arms. I had imagined how my first time would be, but the experience was even better. I’m looking forward to many more passionate moments “

“My first time was great because the other girl knew what she was doing and enjoyed teaching me. Then when she got drunk at a party and told everyone at school we’d hooked up… that wasn’t so great because people were not very accepting of the whole thing and it was the hot gossip for quite awhile after…

“I have to admit – I’ll have to be a bit drunk for my first time and I know that I will probably fumble too much…. Hopefully – whoever it is with will enjoy teaching me the ropes ( or maybe even with the ropes..;-) ).”

“there was actually no fumbling in my experience…pretty surprising considering how much we had had to drink. She is a good friend of mine so I think that helped and we had kissed several times and flirted alot, so it was only a matter of time. I put some music on, lights were low…..it flowed very well.”

“I haven’t done much with girls before, just kissing and a bit of touching…I feel so stupid. My first time a kissed a girl, we were both drunk…but I still had a good time, she was beautiful. she hasnt said a word to me about it again, which kinda gets me down. so either she cant remember it or she chooses not too. hmm…”