More and more I’m seeing girls saying they are married and husbands accept their bisexual and are happy for you to find a girlfriend, but only if you have threesomes…For one thing why do men have to be there with their wife and her girlfriend?
Maybe they don’t feel comfortable with the thought of their wife going off and having fun with a woman…..or are afraid?…
Why can’t the husbands accept that the wife needs a girl to fill their bisexual side or just to explore?
I’m married with a kid of 5 and my husband never once said to me that he would like a threesomes he is not into that, and neither I’m I….Yes, now and then my husband throws a wobble and starts to worry about our marriage…I know what I want but now is not the right time to do anything about it…..I’ll know when the time is right.
I have a wonderful girl that I met on this site, I’m one of the lucky ones to have met such a wonderful beautiful woman…
I’m not quite sure why it seems to be a common thing among men to suggest threesomes when their wife/girlfriend says they’re bi…could just be the testosterone~lol~ anyway, my b/f has never brought up having one on his own…it was usually me suggesting it. I think I did it mostly for the fact I thought it was the only way I was ever gonna be with a woman. He has said to me that he would want to be there and possibly watch…which is a lil weird but I guess my guilt makes me okay with it. Part of me feels bad that I should want anyone else other than him…like he’s not enough or something. Then there’s that other part of me that wants to share that experience with him because I love him so much and I’m happy he accepts that part of me. But as of late, he has said that if I get to where I need to be with a woman he will support me in any way I need him to…including being alone with a woman and no threesomes. I guess it all depends on preference really…some people like that sort of thing. I’d like to experience it once in my life, but it’s not a requirement of my bisexuality if I choose to act on it. I’ve been very blessed with my b/f and despite the many fights we’ve had over what we want and what’s expected, he has always found his way to being very understanding…and I know that’s hard. As far as having a girlfriend outside of my relationship goes, I really can’t say that I want one…because I think at that point it gets a lil too complicated and expectations get a lil too high. I know there are a few on here that would like the same as me…a good friend that I can hang with and sometimes more. That may be what it’s like but I don’t know. I’m fine with things as they are right now. This site has helped to curb my appetite somewhat and stop all the craziness I felt when I first got here…I’m glad it’s not a dating site or I would have been in trouble~lol~ I feel very lucky to have this place to go to!
Threesomes are a whole different ballpark. They are meant for fun and exploring between a couple. A mutual decision. They are no substitute for wanting to really experience a woman. When that third person is involved there are thoughts of keeping everyone happy. Not that it can’t be fun. It really can. BUT when a woman wants to experience a woman it’s better one on one. It doesn’t feel like a performance that way. You can put your whole body into just exploring. For me men equate violence. I don’t mean violence as in being hit and what not. But they bring a brute force to things. lol And with a woman just one on one it’s like watching a flower bloom before your eyes. Maybe it’s just me. But men bring an aura with them.
My dh and I have had our threesomes. They were fun. Minus one. lol But I was with women before he came along. So I know what I have felt and have been through both. So for anyone who is willing to have a threesome to be with a woman just know it’s not the same. It just isn’t. Don’t get me wrong it’s not bad just you never really know until you have have been with just a woman.
I could go on and on. But if it makes you uncomfortable to talk about having threesomes the best advice is don’t do it. If you want to be with just a woman try to work it out. If you can’t you are better off just waiting until the time is right. Anything that brings guilt is tainted from the start.
Its the whole standup to pee thing ya’ll….If it has a fucking penis…Then all it thinks about is the porn they seen when they were 16 and beat off too….Most times they think “Hell yea a mans fantasy”…*Rolls eyes*…But they only think with their cocks…They dont realize that there is more to it than that…All they think about is the sex thing…Its never about the heart
Personally, I have tried the threesome thing and enjoyed it. Although at times it did seem rather surreal. I doubt it will become a regular part of my sex life. I acknowledge and respect both sides of the debate. As long as everyone is open and knows their boundaries I think it can enhance one’s life. The threesome was MY idea…not DH. I have NEVER done anything that I didn’t want to. I know I will not move onto “swinging” as I need no other penis in my life. However, should I wish to be alone with a woman, I know DH would respect that. I just want him to come on my journey with me and if at ANY time either of us feel that our relationship was threatened, we are mature enough to sit and talk things through.
IMHO, if you can’t stand the heat…stay outta the bedroom!
The only way I EVER see anything happening with a woman, for me, is if my husband is completely involved and participating. That’s the only way I would want it. And since I’m not sure either one of us is comfortable with the idea of “sharing” each other with someone else, I doubt that anything will be able to happen with another woman for a long time, if ever.
My marriage is too important to me to destroy it by going behind my husband’s back for something that would, in all likelihood, be a silly fling and not that great anyway. I’m one of those weird people who only believes in having sex with someone you love. That doesn’t appear to be very common in the bi world — most of the people I’ve met are more “jump into bed quickly” types. That’s fine, if that’s what makes them happy. It wouldn’t satisfy me.
I’m married and I’ve have threesomes with my husband and another woman, but I’ve also been with a woman alone. I like them both.Sometimes it’s nice to just be with one person and sometimes it’s nice to wonder “whose hand is that?”
My husband never pressured me into having a threesome. It was a decision we made together. If it feel right and comfortable and everyone involved is happy than why not?
Yes, yes and yes. Personally, I think it’s the best of both worlds and is the primary reason I’m on this site.
And no, it’s not for everybody but to each her own is the way this site functions which is why I keep hanging around and feel free to voice my unequivocal opinion on this subject. My approach since the big discovery has been “I really enjoy this and it harms no one, so why not.” I have no desire from a “woman’s perspective” to have anything deeper than a great friendship and some ancillary messing around to go with it. Failing that, I find the ancillary messing around quite a lot of fun on its own merit. I will admit, however, that this whole exploration business and some of the people I’ve met on this site have got me thinking a little bit more. I have found some utterly brilliant souls on here who engage me intellectually and whom I just plain like the hell out of. So it does make you kind of wonder how much it would take to take one step further. And here I was a little nervous to begin with… and now a whole bunch of other perceptions are beginning to change. Will it change my love for him; never. But it could seriously complicate things, lol.
